It’s clear that Elimination Communication requires patience and commitment, but it’s essential for both of these virtues to be present in both parents. Whether Mom, Dad, or both parents spend time away from the home for work-related purposes, the commitment to the method must still be present. If one parent is on the fence about EC or actively resisting to implement some EC techniques, it will be a long road ahead and can potentially create bumps in the road for your relationship as a family. It is important to view Elimination Communication as a journey, and we all know that journeys are more enjoyable when you have someone by your side. If you choose to implement EC into your life as a method for infant potty training, it crucial for it to be a family commitment, even if it’s just a commitment to *try* it.
Potty Training misalignment can lead to backtracking and delay
A lovely family recently contacted EC Simplified, expressing frustration while attempting to apply Elimination Communication methods to their daily routine at home, simply because they weren’t on the same page with each other. This misalignment caused this family to continuously backtrack on potty training, delaying the process and creating confusion for their new baby. One parent would be actively listening and watching for EC cues and signals, while the other parent opted for the “ease” of diapering. It wasn’t until they sat down and discussed the benefits of EC and helpful techniques that they started walking hand in hand on the journey. This is a chance to grow together as a family and learn how to communicate more succinctly with your child.
Include older siblings on the journey
If you have older children and they enjoy assisting you with their new baby sibling during the day, include them in on the learning experience. When you hear certain cues or recognize signals in your baby, expressing their needs, share that insight with your older child (if they are interested). If your older child is graduating from EC or beyond potty trained, they can naturally take on a leadership role with their new baby sibling. This is always a joy to witness once siblings begin interacting more with each other… “Here, let me show you the way..”. :) This is a great opportunity to encourage a healthy “Big Brother/ Big Sister” mentality.
One of our readers shared a related story with us just recently. Shannon gave birth to twin girls 7 months ago, while their other son is 5 years old. Their older son enjoys being “Mommy’s little helper” and often calls his new sisters, “my little girls”. He is already insisting on teaching them new things and introducing them to all the fascinating things about the world. Shannon and her husband are committed to applying EC methods to their daily routine, while their son enjoys making the “psss” sound to encourage his baby sisters while sitting on the potty. They actively share the journey with their older son and it has helped bond their family together through this learning experience. They look forward to when the girls are walking and their “Mommy’s little helper” can assist and encourage them towards EC graduation.
We felt the need to highlight the importance of family involvement and how much weight it carries while implementing EC methods into your home life. Full family commitment has the potential to strengthen *much* more than your trust and communication with your child. :)
Wishing you great insight and a wonderful learning experience with your loves!
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Ok. So you’re doing Elimination Communication with your baby and everything was going great for the last few weeks or months. You caught every poo and almost every pee, or the majority thereof. You may not even have studied up on infant potty training…you’ve just had such great beginner’s luck!
But now…oh my. Now. Sheesh. Your baby pees right after you take her off the potty. On the floor. She arches every time you try to put her on the mini potty.
Hello, potty pause. (Or call it a potty training strike. Because it darn near is!)
Before she happily went along with you. You were in harmony. But now…let’s just call it the opposite of harmony, and it’s gone on for several days.
You are royally frustrated (understatement?). You need help. So here it is.Read Entire Post
“I’d have to say that the funniest EC-miss story with my son, William, happened in his first week of life. I had started ECing him right from the start, and with my twin sister in town to help watch my older daughter, I tried to devote a good amount of time and energy to getting his timing and cues down.
Well, one afternoon when my husband was away with my daughter, my sister and I were alone at home with William, and it was fairly warm so I was letting him go bare-bottom.Read Entire Post