How to Make an EC Potty Cozy in 10 Minutes (from an Old T-shirt) – Step by Step

elimination communication diy potty cozy step-by-stepWhen practicing Elimination Communication with your new baby, you may eventually choose to add a mini potty into the equation. You can start using one at around 6 weeks old (naturally with you holding your baby securely on it).

But…the major problem with putting a young baby on a mini potty is the plastic…it’s hard, it’s often cold, and it’s not very comfortable…for a baby.

It usually just makes your baby cry…which may lead you to believe it’s the potty that’s the problem…and stop using it altogether.

But the problem isn’t the potty. It’s the plastic. Read more

Diaper-free Time: Are We Teaching Our Babies to Pee on the Floor?

Elimination Communication: Teaching Baby to Pee on the Floor?A new trend has emerged in the field of Elimination Communication:

Babies are learning to pee on the floor, whenever, wherever.

I’ve been doing a lot of work with my readers on my private support Forum and have been trying to figure out, for a long while now, why this has been happening.

Why Do Lots of ECed Babies Pee All Over the Floor?

The answer is simply that we teach them that.

Just like we teach them to go in diapers. Or to call us Mama or Papa. Or how to sing a certain song (by modeling it over and over again). Read more

The Ultimate Guide to Traveling with Elimination Communication

elimination communication - pottying baby on an airplaneAs if doing Elimination Communication (aka Infant Potty Training or Diaper Free Babies) isn’t (at times) tricky enough for Western parents while at home…taking it on the road can add a-whole-nother dimension.

Have you ever had the joy of changing a diaper in an airplane lavatory?

How about a sitting amidst a giant poopie diaper blow-out while you’re on a bus (with no bathroom for miles)?

Or lugging around a huge diaper bag while sightseeing, including the subsequent tricky diaper changes in a cacophony of interesting, non-Koala-changing-table-equipped locales?

Doing Elimination Communication and pottying your baby while you travel can save you mess, money, frustration, and time.

(To the inexperienced ECer, it can also be terrifying to imagine…or plan.)

Yet it can also turn out to be much more successful than your in-home EC practice. (Go figure!)

By following some simple guidelines (scroll to the end of this post for the summary of my tips), you can EC abroad with ease.

The photo journey and suggestions I’m about to share might even help the general experience of traveling with your baby or toddler be much more joyous and stress-free.

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Elimination Communication Resistance: The Continuum Concept, EC, & Child-centeredness

Elimination Communication Resistance

Sometimes baby is “over” being the focus of your attention…especially with Elimination Communication!

If you’ve been doing Elimination Communication and things were going smoothly, and all of a sudden your baby is simply resisting, full-force, to sit on the potty (but you’re certain that you are paying attention. In fact, you pay attention so much that this SHOULD be working, right? You put aside everything else and make sure his pottying needs are met. You’ve been damn near perfect and now…it’s stopped working!!!)…you might take a look at this new theory I’ve developed around infant potty training rebellion.

I’ve woven the philosophies of Elimination Communication & the Continuum Concept together in a way that demonstrates how child-centerdness and infant potty training simply do not mesh. The thing is, if you are making this Elimination Communication mistake, you probably don’t even realize that you’re doing this at all!

Okay…so now for the excerpt from my book to learn why babies sometimes resist pottying, why the Terrible Twos exist in toddlers in the first place, and what you can do about it. Like, today. Read more

What’s More Convenient: Elimination Communication or Full-time Diapering?

Are babies "Inconvenient"? EC or Full-time Diapering?
Are babies “Inconvenient”?

Elimination Communication is often seen as inconvenient. It’s different. Unknown. Mysterious. Potentially…{gasp}…dirty.

The Truth

Let me debunk this myth clearly and calmly: pottying your baby (when started and practiced properly) is actually less messy and takes less time than dealing with diaper changes.

It causes less struggle throughout the day (um, yeah, most babies *hate* laying down for the old diaper change, don’t they?).

And then later on, when other kiddos are engaged in months (and even years) of conventional toilet training, while your kiddo regularly goes potty on the…well…potty…you probably won’t be sitting there hemming & hawing about how Elimination Communication was inconvenient. Read more

Elimination Communication Myth #1: It will psychologically damage my baby to start toilet training this early.

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Do we really need to wait THIS long?

No way. It will not psychologically damage your baby to start toilet training as an infant, even at birth, with Elimination Communication.

If that were true, babies in over half the world would be royally screwed up. They’re all potty trained by 1 year old. We’d have a world chock full of tiny invalids for sure!!

Regarding when to start toilet training, child psychology experts insist that parents will harm their baby’s psyche and cause irreparable emotional damage by potty training early.

If you’re talking about “Early Potty Training,” a method which from the early 20th century which incorporated coercion (and anal suppositories of soap, recommended by the US government, to regulate poops), you are correct! Totally damaging.

If you are talking about coercive forms of modern-day toilet training, you are correct! Yes, an utter emotional roller coaster for tots.

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When EC Stops Working: The Elimination Communication “Potty Pause”

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Sometimes the Older Baby Just Needs More Control

Potty Pause. A not-so-great word. Let me share what it is and what to do about it….

So you’re doing Elimination Communication with your baby and everything was going great for the last few weeks or months. You caught every poo and almost every pee, or the majority thereof. You may not even have studied up on infant potty training…you’ve just had such great beginner’s luck!

But now…oh my. Now. Sheesh. Your baby pees right after you take her off the potty. On the floor. She arches every time you try to put her on the mini potty.

Hello, potty pause. (Or call it a potty training strike. Because it darn near is!)

Before she happily went along with you. You were in harmony. But now…let’s just call it the opposite of harmony, and it’s gone on for several days.

You are royally frustrated (understatement?). You need help. So here it is. Read more

Why Dr. Sears is Wrong About Diaper Rash

Elimination Communication Cures Diaper RashI’m a pretty avid follower of Attachment Parenting practices. We cosleep, breastfeed, babywear…we do Elimination Communication, which is in-line with AP principles (albeit missing from the AP books).

In fact, I bought 7 of Dr. Sears’ parenting books and read them as the Gospel of my early months with my newborn boy.

However, the rare holes in his theories are beginning to show up in a few places as I get wiser as a mom…namely: Pottying. Toilet Training. Diapers.

And, (the topic I’m covering today) Diaper Rash.

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How to Know When Your Baby Needs to Pee

How to Know When Your Baby Needs to Pee - Elimination Communication

When you’re doing Elimination Communication with your baby you’re gonna need to know how to determine when your baby needs to pee.

In potty training language, this could be considered your baby’s “PeePee Dance.”

In EC language, it’s what I call “The Four Roads to Potty Time” and it includes 3 other things in addition to said PeePee Dance….

Why more complicated than just a Dance?

Well, that’s because we’re dealing with young infants here (ages 0-18 months)! Read more