Why Emily Ditched Attachment Parenting

Attachment Parenting worked in some ways for Emily @Holistic Squid…but not in others.

This is a photo she made:

Attachment Parenting worked for me. It pretty much rocked and I’d say it worked for me…mostly. There are a few techniques I’d adjust next time around, and a bit more balance I’d bring into it all.

As Emily has with her 2nd baby.

In any case I’m genuinely interested to hear what you think about Emily’s blog post:

Why We Ditched Attachment Parenting

Please hop on over to Holistic Squid, read the whole thing, and then hop back on over here and tell me what you thought in the Comments section below….

xx Andrea

Do other cultures ever experience potty strikes? How do they deal with one without diapers?

Q: I am constantly wondering about other cultures and EC. Do they ever experience the potty strikes that I  and others I read about have experienced? How do they deal with that not using any type of diaper at all? Thanks for all you do! ~TJ, Ukiah, CA, USA

A: Hey TJ…I really appreciate your question and have integrated all of yesterday’s research about native cultures’ philosophies about EC (which actually, they don’t really have them!) and will apply that knowledge to my answer (as well as my experience in psychology).

First, I will list the reasons why babies go on potty strikes or Elimination Communication potty pauses in the first place.

Then, I will cover why those things would not happen in those diaperless cultures and tribes you speak of.

Let’s get started….

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What would a native say about why she potties her baby instead of using diapers?

Q: It’s hard to think of a question, after reading your very thorough book. I guess sometimes I wonder what the attitudes towards EC are in other countries–not just the practice, but the attitudes. For instance, it’s such an EC thing to mention China and India and the Amazonian tribes from The Continuum Concept, and to say that oh, they just hold their baby over a trash can/a bowl/a pot/something, cue, and that’s that. But if you asked a mother who has culturally inherited an EC practice, will she explain a philosophy behind it, especially in contrast to diapering? Or is “Elimination Communication” as a philosophical concept truly branded/packaged for a Western, diaper-dependent audience? What would she say about why she does it? ~Emily P., currently in Rabat, Morocco, @greenlightediting.com

A: Hey Emily! Thanks for submitting your question…it is indeed unique and one that I had to do a little research to fully answer (and I delayed its publication by a few days to fit this into my busy mothering schedule).

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What is the one thing you would tell people to keep in mind when doing EC?

Q: What is the one thing you would tell people to keep in mind when doing EC? ~Selby, Hawaii, USA @StretchExpert

A: Hey Coach Selby! Thanks so much for your very important question.

The most important thing I can share with people is this:

“When I’m focused on EC, we become disconnected. When I focus on connection, EC flows smoothly.”

I have to admit that I read something like this somewhere and adapted it for my own use.

But it rings true, doesn’t it?

In other words:

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